What is my blog about? It's about Torah family living. It's about letting Torah affect our daily lives, from mealtime to bedtime, homeschooling to farm chores.

Saturday, March 5, 2011


I was recently accused of being stereotypical.  I accept that “insult.”

In our house, Daddy does certain jobs, and Mommy does certain jobs.  Daddy defends the home, protects us, guides us, earns the paycheck to support us.  Mommy does the majority of the cooking, cleans the house, and teaches the kids.  We do the jobs we are best designed for.  I would never survive in an outside job, and Daddy couldn’t teach his way out of a paper bag.  We’re okay with that.  We do the jobs we are best at.  It just so happens that we are doing the jobs we were created to do.

Without apology, I will proclaim that Mommy is better at giving out hugs, cookies, and understanding words.  Daddy is better at throwing hay, dealing with colleagues, and chopping firewood.

I don’t want to live in a home where Mommy and Daddy are so afraid of being stereotypical that they end up confused and poorly suited to the jobs they end up with, seemingly by the luck of the draw.  Yes, I know of homes where whoever has a bigger income brings home the money, and the leftover parent gets the kids.

In our home, we are right where we need and want to be.  I can’t think of a greater joy that teaching my children, braiding their hair, fixing a meal they all like, and kissing their booboos.  If that is stereotypical, then make me the poster child!

All hail the mighty mommy!
She who rocks the cradle rules the world!

(As a side note, Daddy does all the grocery shopping, occasionally cooks, and Mommy throws
hay when necessary.)


Andi said...

Smile-ing at the side note! But I hear you on doing the jobs for which we were created..... :)

Enid said...


Anonymous said...

Lol, Daddy does most of the grocery shopping over here too. That's because Daddy works "in town" near the nearest grocery stores. ;). I will say when he's home jobs do get a bit mixed up. We like working at tasks as a family. Otherwise that's life around here. Daddy does this, Mommy does that. Oh well modern society. ;)

Katie said...

I love the way you wrote about this topic :) My dad says I got the "Gramma" gene because I sew, quilt, and knit! Have a great week and tell Uncle Doug great job for doing all the grocery shopping- thats hard work too! Love ya <3

Leah said...

Great post! At the beginning of our marriage - the roles were reversed...I was the money maker and my husband was struggling to find a job. Those were the most miserable years of our lives. I am so thankful now to be home, where YHVH created me to be - loving and teaching the kids. If my husband lost his job tomorrow, I'd probably rather starve than go back to work full-time outside of the house. At least we would be happy and starving :) But seriously, I do take out the trash and manage the money he makes. It's good and we like it that way! Hooray for being stereotypical...and not!

ReneeK said...

Great post! I like this kind of stereotyping.

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